In the new year, we often set goals or resolutions for ourselves, whether that be deciding
to eat healthier, finally getting that gym membership, working towards a new
career path, or saving up enough money to buy a home; we use the fresh start of
the new year to improve ourselves and our circumstances but what about our
Our relationships with others, especially our partners, have a larger effect than
we realize on our overall well-being and our ability to achieve our goals. A
healthy, positive relationship with our loved ones puts us in a greater
position to succeed than an unhealthy relationship.
Here are a few practical tips to help you strengthen your relationship with your partner
in the new year!
Clear communication is essential in any relationship. It's important to openly
discuss and define expectations to create a shared vision and avoid
Realistic Goals in Relationships
It is common for people to have high expectations, such as expecting their partner to always
meet their emotional or physical needs in particular ways. However, it is
important to remember that everyone is human, and perspective differences are
normal. Whether it's a small issue like deciding where to eat or bigger
disagreements on parenting or finance management, building a genuine connection
with someone involves understanding, supporting, getting vulnerable, and
working together to navigate through these differences.
The goal is to grow with your partner, not to fix them! This mindset fosters a healthier,
more supportive relationship.
Setting Achievable Goals
Focus on Mutual Growth
It's important for relationship goal-setting to center on mutual growth rather than
individual partner changes. Expecting one partner to change often leads to a
blame cycle, undermining the relationship's growth. Instead, focus on shared
efforts and responsibilities, like improving communication or spending quality
time together, which encourage a balanced and healthy development for both
Celebrate Efforts and Progress
Recognizing and appreciating each other's efforts towards meeting these goals is essential.
It shows that you value the other person's contribution to the relationship.
Regular Check-ins and Adaptability
Schedule Regular Check-ins
Dedicate time to discuss your progress and feelings. This regular communication ensures
that both partners are on the same page and feel heard.
Adapt and Adjust Goals
Be open to modifying your goals as your relationship grows and changes. Flexibility and
solving problems together allow the relationship to evolve healthily.
A relationship thrives on vulnerability, communication, and the willingness to
grow together. Setting realistic goals and being honest and open to each
other's needs can lead to a stronger, more fulfilling partnership.